How do You Accept Rebukes?


I am writing today from beautiful Florida.
I am writing today from beautiful Florida.

Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Proverbs 27:6 NLT

Long ago, I was writing a blog post about humor. I compared the humor of my friends in different areas. Just a few minutes after publishing my post, I got a call from a friend here where I live. He told me I better rethink what I wrote about my friends in another area. He told me even though he knew no offense was intended, it could offend them. I edited my post as suggested. I thought, how wonderful that I have a friend who was so concerned about me, that he called so quickly to warn me, even though he was busy with his own day, and had no vested interest other than looking out for me. Instead of taking offense and taking his call as being critical, I took it as a compliment. He thought enough of me and my ministry to make that call right away.

Unfortunately, many people in Jeremiah’s day did not appreciate his rebukes, even though they were given out of love. It takes a lot of love to tell someone what they need to hear, instead of patronizing them with what they want to hear. I realize the success of my ministry depends upon Jeremiahs of today, who will rebuke me when needed, in a Christlike way.

Christ Himself did not suppress one word of truth, but He spoke it always in love. He exercised the greatest tact, and thoughtful, kind attention in His [association] with the people. He was never rude, never needlessly spoke a severe word, never gave needless pain to a sensitive soul. He did not censure human weakness. He fearlessly denounced hypocrisy, unbelief, and iniquity, but tears were in His voice as He uttered His scathing rebukes.  –Ellen White, Desire of Ages, Page 353 

Years ago, the church I was attending at the time was going through a little crisis. I was having dinner one evening with a couple of friends who supported me wholeheartedly on my view of the crisis. In the course of the evening I made a comment out of frustration that was out of place. They both quickly let me know what I had just said was not appropriate and was not a healthy attitude. They showed me how much they loved and supported me but did not hesitate at all to let me know when I stepped out of line. I thought, “Wow! Now I know they are really looking out for me and my ministry!” I felt loved and secure, knowing these friends were not going to let me step out of line and make a fool of myself and disgrace my ministry.

When people rebuke me I take it as a compliment. It means my ministry is worth something in their eyes, and they are looking out for me. How do you accept rebuke?

5 thoughts on “How do You Accept Rebukes?

    1. To be honest i didnt always take tebuke well but now i matured, this passage made me also realize that correction is good. It makes you grow.

    2. To be honest i didnt always take rebuke well but now i matured, this passage made me also realize that correction is good. It makes you grow.

    1. To know how to accept rebukes is to unlearn somethings you already learnt in life.. Firstly know that you are not here existing alone.Secondly admit to yourself that others also exist who are your brothers.Thirdly,admit to yourself that your brother may know somethings that you don’t know or do not know it better.

      I believe that settles the discussion because I do not believe any body knew it better than Jesus in His answer found in Mathew 18:15-18.

      “God gave men a work and that work is to be around for the sake of each other at all times,good and bad.On this basis, I am not absolute boss over my life and my brother is not also over his life. On that basis Jesus implies a vacuum is created to allow the discipline of rebuke or correction. We should accept it noblest and redemptive task. I believe Jesus understood it better and knowing all the mighty issues that would have been created because of issues over rebuke and discipline intended it to be simple as a ministry. I called it the ministry of reconciliation on a personal basis;. We found this Jesus ideal in Mathew chapter 18:15-18, but specifically v.15 in light of our discussion. V.15, If thy brother sin go over to Him,tell him his fault,and between him and thee sort the matter, if he is able to hear thee, thou has gain thy brother.

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